What to Look for When Selecting a Wedding Officiant

Your officiant sets the tone for your ceremony—arguably the most meaningful part of your entire wedding day. Whether you're working with a professional, asking a friend, or choosing someone tied to your faith or values, the right officiant makes the experience feel heartfelt, grounded, and uniquely yours.

Here’s what to consider when choosing the right person to stand with you as you say your vows:

Do You Feel Comfortable With Them?

More than anything, you should feel at ease. If you feel like you have to perform or explain yourself too much, they’re probably not the right fit. A good officiant should bring a calming,

Do They Understand Your Story?

Look for someone who wants to know how you met, what you love about each other, and why you’re choosing marriage. The best ceremonies include personal touches—and the right officiant will be excited to help you tell your story.

Are They Experienced (or Willing to Prepare)?

If you’re choosing a friend or relative, make sure they’re comfortable speaking in front of a group. You might also:

• Offer them a script or use one of our Pop-Up Wedding templates

• Encourage a few practice sessions

• Keep the ceremony short, sweet, and simple

Do They Align With Your Values?

Whether you want a spiritual, secular, or totally non-traditional ceremony, your officiant should respect your vision. Don’t feel obligated to include formalities or language that doesn’t resonate with you.

Are They Available & Legal to Perform the Ceremony?

Double check:

• Their availability on your wedding date

• That they’re authorized to legally marry you in your state (or can be easily ordained online, if needed)

Final Thought

The right officiant is someone who not only performs the ceremony, but amplifies the love you already share. Go with your gut, trust the connection, and choose someone who makes you feel seen.

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