Who to Invite: A Simple Decision Tree for Your Wedding Guest List

One of the most emotional (and often overwhelming) parts of planning a wedding is deciding who makes the guest list. Especially for micro and pop-up weddings, where the magic lies in intimacy, clarity is key.

Here’s a simple way to take the stress out of deciding who gets a seat at the table.

Step 1: Start with the Core

• Are they part of your daily or weekly life?

• Would your day feel incomplete without them there?

  • If yes, they’re likely part of your essential guest list.

Step 2: Consider the Circle

• Have you shared life milestones together (career changes, health struggles, personal wins)?

• Do you feel energized, not obligated, in their company?

  • If yes, they belong in your inner circle.

Step 3: Family Filter

• Are they part of your chosen or biological family?

• Are they supportive of your relationship and future?

• Will their absence cause more stress than their presence?

  • If yes, consider including them.

    
    

Step 4: Gut Check

• Are you inviting them out of guilt, pressure, or politics?

• Are you trying to avoid a conversation by saying yes?

• Would you be okay not having a photo with them in your album?

  • If no, give yourself permission to let it go.

    
    

Step 5: Plus-One Policy

• Are they in a long-term relationship?

• Have you met their partner?

• Will it help the guest feel more comfortable attending?

  • If yes to two or more, consider extending the invite to the plus-one.

Final Step: Do the Space + Budget Test

Once you have a preliminary list, ask:

• Can the venue comfortably host this number?

• Does it align with your budget and what matters most?

  • Trim if needed—and don’t be afraid to prioritize connection over convention.

Final Thought

The right guest list isn’t about how many people attend—it’s about who you genuinely want to share this moment with. Keep it small, keep it meaningful, and the love will speak for itself.

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